"Connected, but Alone?"

"Connected But Alone ?"

When it comes to communicating face to face is really a big and better way to actually communicate with someone instead of communicating with someone online. By this i mean that by actually communicate with that person right there and now you and that person will see and learn a lot by talking with one another. This will only mean that you will get the actual full story that most people wont get through a Tex, because most people are lazy to write a whole paragraph explaining everything yet they Tex the whole day. Another thing is that you will get to see every emotion when your there , you can experience a laugh, serious conversation, sad moment, or something excitement. Yeah you can get that also by a Tex but it wont feel the same as if you were actually there, all you will get is to feel that feeling for just a moment but will feel it alone in a way. When it come to communicating on online i always avoid it, the reason why is because i feel like everyone has a life and things to do. I was one of the few that grew up playing outside and have fun with our creativity, most kids now and days have iPad's and smart phones. So i know how to be in the real world instead of the media.

In class we had seen a Ted Talks video "Connected, but Alone?"and it had showed me a lot bout communicating through the media. Sherry Turkle claimed, "our little devices, those little devices in our pockets, are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do,they change who we are."  This explains that by being on our smart phones it had impacts us in many ways that it has changed in what we do and who we had become. Smart phones can effect on the things you do and by this because people have been on their phones for so long that they just cant let go of them and has become part of them. This only means that they have to Tex or check their phone constantly. So yeah you will see a person using their phone while talking to someone, on the store, on the train where you see rows of people sitting and standing using their phone or listening to music. People constantly be on their phones and don't pay attention around them. I'm the type of people that is always aware of their surroundings,  this is because you never know what you will come across with. My dad always told me to always be aware because you might come across someone famous, and yes this came true a couple times, might find money , most i found was one hundred dollars, or just come across something interesting that can catch your eye. Most people just be on their phone and block on whats around them. What this also effects is on what that person becomes by this I agree with Turkle because most people becomes afraid of talking. People had become so attach with their phones that they all forgot how to have a conversation face to face. Most people are afraid because they think they are boring and can become someone they want to be on the media. This is when it leads up to think that they will mess up when having a conversation because they think they might say something wrong, this is a problem to them because they are used to edit on everything they have to say when they have a conversation through media.

Turkle goes on to claim, "Human relationships are rich and they're messy and they're demanding. And we clean them up with technology. And when we do, one of the things that can happen is that we sacrifice conversation for mere connection. We short-change ourselves. . . . Over and over I hear, "I would rather text than talk." And what I'm seeing is that people get so used to being short-changed out of real conversation,so used to getting by with less, that they've become almost willing to dispense with people altogether." this all show that they start becoming someone who wants to be connected but will always be alone because that person don't really know how to have a conversation with another person's face. In my life i always like to talk to people because i feel i can learn a lot from one another. Is always something something I like to do because i get to be myself and being someone who you are not will always get you no where and will make you feel alone. The only problem with me is that I am a shy person and will only have a conversation if someone else starts it. Every time someone starts it is easy to have a conversation only if they are interested in talking back as well. So many people i had come across has no interest in talking because they are that type of person to be in their phone and that always makes me feel stupid or embarrassed because i try to talk to someone who is not interested in knowing me. This doesn't stop me in knowing to get other people because its a good way to learn other people and who they are what they know and what they experience. This generation really bothers me in a way that we are paying more attention to our phones and the media that people don't know how to see the world no more. I had come across many kids who have their headphones and texting on their phone while their parents or grandma are trying to have a simple conversation with them. They just ignore them and go on with their phones this not only disappointing their parents or family members but is also disrespectful something that is always going on with being connected, this is why people should really think about how long they stay on the media. This is where they should learn to talk to one another were it will lead up to interesting places that they can find , experience new things and meet new people and learn many other thing, but people will never find something like this by being connected in the media, they can find it in there but whats the point if you are not there. Is always going to be better if your are actually there.